Kindness ideas by Katie Ranney Craft a kindness journal for someone you care about this month. Pick a person in your life. Get a small notebook with about 30 pages and write their name on the cover. Everyday write something that you admire about them or a positive thought that you had about them that day. Keep it simple. One thought per day per page. But don’t be afraid to get creative: illustrate the page, press flowers, glue in pictures. Then at the end of the month, gift the kindness journal to them. They’ll have a trove of positivity to delve into whenever their life gets rough.
Be kind – Start Simple
Kindness ideas by Katie Ranney Let’s start the month of October with a simple compliment. Find something that you appreciate about a friend, family member, or colleague and tell them. Try to find something beyond their appearance to comment on (though a “nice outfit” can be nice, too). Kindness doesn’t need to be expensive or world changing. Start with a compliment.
What is Kindness Challenge?
It encourages people to purposefully commit random acts of kindness for a whole month. The benefits of being kind have been studied for both the person committing kindness and the one receiving kindness. Gottman’s ratio for relationships says that for a relationship to be felt as positive, there must be a ratio of 5 positive interactions to every negative interaction. So you can strengthen your relationships by committing acts of kindness and building your “bank” of positive interactions for a potential bad day. Research by Random Acts of Kindness and cited by Dartmouth University found that kindness lowers stress levels, increases happiness, extends your lifespan, and inspires others to be kind to others. (https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf) Challenge yourself to be kind this October and build a habit of kindness in your life. Post by Katie Ranney
Job Opportunity in VA
The Office of the Executive Secretary of the Supreme Court of Virginia will be accepting online applications for a Dispute Resolution Services Manager position in Richmond, Virginia, beginning September 3 and closing September 17. DRS Manager, Richmond, VA: https://virginiajobs.peopleadmin.com/postings/243202
Kindness Challenge!
October is Conflict Resolution Month! CRA is celebrating the month with its 2021 Kindness Challenge: Month of Kindness. Go to CRA’s Instagram page to find inspiration for adding kindness to your life and the lives of those around you. From small gestures to grand acts of kindness, everyone could benefit from acting a little kinder and from receiving a little kindness. If you feel moved to do so, we encourage you to post about acts of kindness in your life. Remember to put @crahawaii in your description and #kindnesschallenge2021 We look forward to seeing the peace you bring into the world.
National Grief Awareness Day
National Grief Awareness Day on August 30 is dedicated to raising awareness of the many ways in which individuals cope with loss. If you know a friend who is grieving, let’s support him/her the best we can. There are some resources available online on this topic: Kokua Mau’s Grief & Bereavement Resource page Hawai`i Psychological Association’s Bereavement Resources page “Coping with Grief & Loss” by HelpGuide.org
Aloha, As our fight against COVID lingers on, the need to refine our ability to continue resolving disputes online is rising. Since the parties may be participating in the dispute resolution from different jurisdictions, thought you may find this article by Melissa Kucinski posted on Mediation.com interesting. https://www.mediate.com/articles/MultiJurisdictionalIssues.cfm
Dear Conflict Resolution Alliance (CRA) members – Please join us on Wednesday, August 25 at 12:00 PM Hawai’i time for the Hawai’i State Judiciary, Center for Alternative Dispute Resolution Virtual Brown Bag Series-Skills for Problem Solving on “Courageous Conversations” with Gretchen Alther, José Barzola, and Scott Nishimoto. Program Summary: Leaders are often called upon to facilitate meaningful, civil, and sometimes difficult conversations. Join us to learn about why such conversations are as important as ever, and experience how they can be structured. This highly interactive workshop will include a facilitated courageous conversation and tools for doing this in other spaces. This workshop is relevant for leaders working with teams and communities and anyone wanting to learn more about effective communication in challenging spaces. Additional information is included in the CourageousConversationsFlyer Register for the program at https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/CADRremote Co-sponsored in collaboration with Conflict Resolution Alliance • The Hawaiʻi State Bar Association – ADR Section • Matsunaga Institute for Peace & Conflict Resolution • Community Mediation Centers: Kaua’i Economic Opportunity, Inc. Mediation Program • Ku’ikahi Mediation Center• Maui Mediation Services • The Mediation Center of the Pacific • West Hawai’i Mediation Center To request disability-related accommodations, call the Center for Alternative Dispute Resolution at (808) 539-4237. Please send inquiries to Cadr@courts.hawaii.gov, and please do not send inquiries via this email thread. The Hawaiʻi State Judiciary does not warrant the accuracy or completeness of the information provided by the speaker. Nor do the speaker’s remarks necessarily reflect the opinions of the Judiciary. Look forward to having you join us at future events. Wishing you and your family good health. Stay safe, healthy, and resilient!
Another Form of ADR
Aloha everyone, Hope you are enjoying your weekend. Our board of director, Thomas DiGrazia, wanted to share this New York Times article about another form of ADR in Peruvian Andes. Enjoy!
National Work Like A Dog Day
Aloha, Did you know that today is Work Like A Dog Day? We know that you are working hard everyday to resolve disputes and build peace in our community. (And there are lots of opportunities for our work everywhere.) Work Like a Dog Day is celebrated on August 5 and honors people who put in that extra bit of hard work. It is inspired by the reputed strong work ethic of canines, especially service dogs. Today, let’s pause to appreciate you and all the hard workers around you, who support your work!