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Defuse Conflict With Nonviolent, Compassionate Communication FREE Interactive Discussion with Lisa Jacobs Sponsored by ACR Hawaii and HSBA ADR Section Thursday, February 19, 2015 Presentation Objectives In relationships of all kinds, we are faced with challenging situations and need tools in order to improve our communication with others and strive for mutually-satisfying outcomes. Nonviolent Communication, also referred to Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication, is a process where one learns how to: Break patterns of thinking that lead to arguments Transform conflict into solutions that both parties can live with Move beyond power struggles to cooperation and trust Lisa Jacobs will describe the aspects of Nonviolent Communication and its core components and invite others to participate and practice using the tools that will be provided at this mini-workshop. About Lisa Jacobs Lisa Jacobs is an attorney who has been licensed to practice law in Hawaii for the past 21 years. She found her calling as a Collaborative Attorney and Mediator and opened her own firm, called Better Way Divorce, also known as Pono Divorce, where she passionately devotes 100 percent of her practice using non-adversarial approaches to assist couples to arrive at full and sustainable agreements. Ms. Jacobs is President Elect of the Hawaii Chapter of the Association for Conflict Resolution and will be serving starting this summer as a Co-Chair of the Alternative Dispute Resolution Section of the Hawaii State Bar Association. She mediates for the Mediation Center of the Pacific. For more information, please visit Ms. Jacobs’s website PonoDivorce.com When, Where, and How to Get There When: Thursday, February 19, 2015; 12:00 noon – 1:00 p.m. Where: HSBA Conference Room: 1100 Alakea Street, Suite 1000, Honolulu Parking: Available at Alii Place building, 1099 Alakea Street. Please note that we do NOT validate parking. This event is FREE for current…

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If you are a member of ACR Workplace Section, you can participate in this teleseminar, which will be held Thursday, January 8, 2015 at 12:00 – 1:00 p.m. Eastern (7:00 – 8:00am Hawaii Time). Coaches Janie Neff and Ann Begler will discuss the initial engagement of conflict management coaching clients. Cinnie Noble – one of the hosts of the Conflict Coaching Practice Area – will interview Janie and Ann, who will answer questions such as: What does a first meeting consist of before the client has decided to retain you? What does the first meeting look like once the client has decided to retain you? What information do you send to the client, if any, prior to proceeding? How do you determine a client’s readiness for coaching? And what if you have some reservations about the client’s suitability? If you use a written agreement what terms are included? If you don’t use a written agreement what terms do you discuss with the client that may be considered contractual in nature, i.e. confidentiality? For more information click here

The call for proposals for the 2015 Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR) Annual Conference closes January 8th, 2015. Please make sure to complete and submit your proposal as soon as possible to ensure consideration for that conference, set in Reno, NV October 7-10, 2015. For more information click here

In December you can participate in these 2 Free webinars. December 4, 2014 – The Role of Flexible Thinking in the Mediation Process – ADRHub.com Webinar Description In high conflict situations, mediation clients often become entrenched, taking rigid positions that hinder the mediation process. These rigid positions can be a result of inflexible thinking and the inability to see the other person’s perspective. Rigid positions are often fueled by past disappointment and fears of future conflict. Current neuro-science research helps to explain how the brain responds under duress. Some of our clients respond by working towards resolution, while others become entrenched in defended positions. This workshop will illustrate the difference between flexible and inflexible thinking as well as the obstacles to perspective taking and respectful communication. Presenter: Dr. Mary Atwater is the founder of Collaborative Mediation Services and is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in private practice in Bethesda, Maryland. When: December 4, 2014 – 6:00pm – 7:00pm Eastern (1:00pm – 2:00pm Hawaii Time). To sign up click here December 10, 2014 – The Workplace and Conflict Resolution: Past, Present, and Future – Cornell University ILROnline Presenter: Alexander Colvin, Martin F. Scheinman Professor of Conflict Resolution at the ILR School and associate member of the Cornell Law Faculty When: Wednesday, December 10, 2014 from 12:00 – 1:00 pm EST (7:00am – 8:00am Hawaii Time) To sign up and watch a pre-webcast video from the presenter click here

During this Difficult People in Domestic Mediations workshop of the Mediation Center of the Pacific, mediators can learn about and discuss high emotions, dealing with difficult people, and other challenges in domestic mediations. Presenters: Jim Hoenig, J.D.-Ph.D. Sue Lehrke, Ph.D. Craig Robinson, Ph.D. This workshop will consist of presentation, role plays (by the presenters) and group discussion. FREE for MCP volunteer mediators. Since seating is limited, first preference will be given to those mediators frequently assigned to cases in the domestic arena. When and Where Monday, December 8, 5:30pm – 7:30pm – Kukui Center Conference Room (245 N. Kukui Street, Suite 103, Honolulu) RSVP by December 3 – send an email to nathan@mediatehawaii.org or call (808) 521-6767

During this free ACR teleseminar, Cinnie Noble, Chair of the Conflict Coaching Practice Area of the Work Place Section, will interview highly experienced ADR practitioner Rita Callahan about how coaching fits into organizations as an internal conflict management practice. Rita will answer such questions as: What are the applications of this process in your experience as an internal coach? What distinguishes a conflict coaching practice when it is internal to an organization as opposed to when it is provided by an external coach? How is success of coaching measured by the organization? What methods are used to inform employees about the service? About Rita Callahan Rita has been in the conflict resolution field for 20 years. She has worked as an independent Conflict Resolution and Collaboration consultant providing consulting, mediation, training, coaching, facilitation, team building, and climate assessments to organizations in the U.S. When: Wednesday, December 10, 2014 at 5:00 – 6:00 p.m. Eastern (Noon – 1:00pm Hawaii Time) How to participate in this Free ACR Teleseminar

During this ADRHub free webinar, Sharon Strand Ellison will talk briefly about the dynamics of defensiveness and pitfalls in current “best Practices” in ADR communication. The remainder of the session will focus on skills sets for: Asking disarming questions Giving the kind of feedback that’s essential to maintaining a safe environment for all parties Making clear statements which deal with attitudes and behaviors than can undermine the process Setting firm boundaries when needed. Using this model, you can prompt clients to drop their defenses, often instantly, and engage in a process that goes beyond compromise to deeper levels of resolution Presenter’s Bio Sharon Strand Ellison is an international consultant, an award-winning speaker, and the author of Taking the War Out of Our Words This ADRHub webinar is free (but spots are limited) and will take place Wednesday, November 19, 2014 – 6 – 7:00pm Eastern Time (1 – 2:00pm Hawaii Time) For more information regarding the webinar, the presenter, and registration follow this link 

If you plan to participate in the November 15, 2014 Ceeds of Peace workshop, please read the following message by Dr. Maya Soetoro-Ng, Dr. Kerrie Urosevich and Lisa Taylor, Ceeds of Peace Executive Director. ~~~ We at Ceeds of Peace hope you are all doing well. This is a friendly email to say hello and remind you of the second (and last for 2014 on Oahu) Ceeds of Peace workshop, this coming Saturday – November 15th. NEW & IMPROVED LOCATION – University of Hawaii, West Oahu campus at 91-1001 Farrington Highway in Kapolei – very easy to find. Located just off H-1, only 25-30 minutes from Honolulu. This is not a big campus like UH Manoa – there are only 5 main buildings so you won’t get lost! We are in the new Multi-Purpose Room on the 2nd floor of the Campus Center (building C) – just a few steps from the parking lot. Elevator and stairs to get to the 2nd floor. Air conditioning and good chairs for comfort! PARKING – Visitor Lot A is easy to find – enter the campus and veer right at the grassy round-about (driving circle) and the parking lot will be on your right. Park in any stall that does not say “permit required” (there are many open stalls). Walk across the road you just drove in on, to the Campus Center and go to 2nd floor. MAP – click here TIME – Registration and breakfast from 8:00-8:30am; program will start at 8:30am and end at 3:30pm for all attendees except DOE teachers getting PD credit. BRING – Any materials that you were given at our first workshop on 9/13/14, including your participant folders; any materials related to your Peace Action Plan(s); the “Reflection” homework – see below; minds ready to learn! (new attendees,…

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Betrayal is one of the toughest feelings our clients can endure, characterized by strong emotions and broken spirits. How do we coach clients who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal, whether it is the result of an overt violation of promises, or by covert deceit or hostilities? How do we help with betrayals that have taken place in boardrooms and offices of business or the living spaces of homes? And just as importantly, how do we help clients explore and repair relationships with the Self and with others? In this session Linda Dobson, Master Certified Coach (ICF) and accredited Conflict Coach (JIBC), shares elements of Neuroscience, Emotional Intelligence, and therapeutic models in order to Examine the many facets of betrayal Learn how to be even more effective working with this challenging aspect of conflict When: Thursday, November 13, 2014 at 1:00 – 2:00 p.m. Eastern (8:00 – 9:00am Hawaii Time) How to participate in this free ACR event